Teenage angst update

I took Ty over to talk with his dad last night. He was afraid that his dad would just yell at him, so I had to go in with him. I did at least for support. He opened up about the way he was feeling and I am glad of that. I think he tends to hold things in and bottles these things up until he explodes and says things he doesn't really mean out of anger. I hope his dad understands that.

I did put in my own 2 cents in Ty's defense. He had said that every weekend seems to get busied up with doing stuff with his dad's girlfriend's family. I mentioned that maybe he could not have to go to these every time as a compromise. Also, I suggested that maybe his dad could sit down and relax once in a while and play Xbox with him or something else that Ty enjoys doing. He had told his dad that he doesn't really like standing around piddling in the shop.

His dad also mentioned that when Ty's friends come over they like to help themselves to the refrigerator and food, then leave messes all over Ty's room. They do that at my house sometimes too and I am torn on this part. I know it also bothers Brian. But, on one hand I want them to feel at home in my house. I don't want to run them off. On the other hand, I also don't like the messes they leave behind. But, I am not afraid to say, "hey guys! will you please pick up your messes." It's not like they are going to bite me or anything nasty when it is my own home. I think if I didn't say anything, they just plain wouldn't think of it. I don't think they do it out of disrespect. Kids these days are different than they were say when our parents were growing up and they were afraid of grownups.

So, Ty did at least get his phone back. But, he is without his car and Xbox for the week. I thought it was a little harsh that he took away everything. His dad says he will pick him up sometime later this week to open presents at his house. Apparently, they opened presents on Saturday without him. And, it is also so they can all sit down and apologize to each other. Ty to the other kids and those kids to Ty.